In a large skillet, heat coconut oil over medium heat. Add urad dal, mustard seeds and toast until urad dal is lightly browned.
Add asafetida, turmeric and saute for 15 seconds. Then add curry leaves, red chillies and saute for 1 minute.
Add cabbage, kosher salt and using tongs to mix until all the cabbage is coated in the turmeric. Then add â…“ cup of cover, cover and cook for 10 minutes or until cabbage is tender. Sprinkle coconut, garnish with cilantro and serve immediately.